Billygoat,
I had a similar experience being the oldest of 7. That pretty much shut down any maternal instinct I may have had.
Thanks for making me feel I'm not alone feeling the way I do.
DY
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A call to the childfree/childless....
by Doubtfully Yours inany particular reason for such decision?
i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.
sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.
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A call to the childfree/childless....
by Doubtfully Yours inany particular reason for such decision?
i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.
sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.
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Jwbot,
Sounds like you have a wonderful man by your side. Congratulations are in order.
I've known a few families that the woman's job is just to crank out the children, and the father does all and I mean all the work in terms of providing financially as well as bringing them up; they seem to function pretty well this way.
Thanks for sharing.
DY
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A call to the childfree/childless....
by Doubtfully Yours inany particular reason for such decision?
i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.
sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.
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Tink,
There would be so much less child abuse in this world if people recognized that the parenthood calling was just not for them.
People talk about the childfree being 'selfish', but believe you me, there's a lot of selfishness about parenthood as well. Stuff like... oh, just because my parents want grandchildren; or... oh, who'll continue the family name?! Or... oh, I want somebody to love me; I've even heard silly stuff like having children to have tax deductions!!!
Although my main reasons for childfreedom are health related, I also never had big maternal instincts. Growing up I had more Tomboyish behavior than girlie, hence the fact that babies/kids don't inspire any 'gu-gu ga-ga' feelings in me. Just plain indifferent to the whole parenthood realm of life.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
DY
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Well, ever think about leaving your mate for someone else ???
by run dont walk inthis should be interesting, .
how many of you have thought or have left your mate for someone else, was it worth it, or worth it that you stayed ???.
going through a difficult time right now, we've been together 15 years now, no kids, shes a couple years older then me.
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Nope!!!
Not for someone else, but yes about leaving so that I can start over fresh. Never for someone else, though!
DY
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how does everyone else cope with being shunned by family?
by nb-dfed ini am a newbie to the site.
i was born an raised a jw.
shortly after marriage, my husband and i decided we no longer wanted to be part of the organization.
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Many years ago, when I was disfellowshipped, my family treated me as if I were dead.
It hurt so much that it made me come back.
That was one of my biggest mistakes in life. By now I would've been over it, or they would've weakened and dealt with me if only in a superficial way.
DY
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Why would someone name their kid Jehovah?
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well according to the social security death benefit index, a few have....i found 25 entries for "jehovah".
http://ssdi.rootsweb.com/.
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Poor children! Nutty parents, I guess.
DY
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Hola guys n gals
by mojobeans inhi there subscribers.. i just wanted to post a quick hello after being given the url to this site by my brother (real that is, not one of those pseudos we are all familiar with).
nice to see a site with some kind of solidarity going on.
it's kinda strange because i didn't even know this site existed so it's interesting reading through the posts and taking a trip down memory lane.
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Welcome!
DY
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100,000 Miles on my car!
by Elsewhere init happened yesterday at 4:30 pm while i was out-n-about doing errands... i got to watch my car's odometer roll over to 100,000 miles!
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Cool!
Looking forward to the same on my car. I'm 1/2 way there!
DY
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A call to the childfree/childless....
by Doubtfully Yours inany particular reason for such decision?
i have health fears, so long ago i decided against having children.
sometimes i feel afraid of growing old alone and lonely, but lately i've realized that having children is no guarantee of any future situation.
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jwbot,
Sounds like you have a good plan!
Now there's the perfect word for my situation: indifferent. Not hatred towards them, not annoyed by them, just plain indifferent towards children.
May your mate come through with his promise to adore you while you're expecting his child.
Thanks for sharing.
DY
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When You Were A Witness---Were You Ever On A Spiritual "High"?
by minimus ini knew soooo many jws that would get pumped up because of an assembly or elder's or circuit overseer's talk.
after hearing the reasons to pioneer, for example, some would wait in a line to get their applications from the service overseer.
some would go to their first district convention, see the "love" and want to get baptized.......were you one of those persons that ever found yourself "on a spiritual high"??
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Oh yeah, you kidding? At one point I was having part at almost every assembly, participating in the dramas, giving demonstrations from the assembly platform. Gosh, I was in such a high I almost thought the next thing was to receive a calling to be one of the anointed!
In retrospect, it was all pure silliness and a waste of my time.
DY